2018-12-05 / Editorial


Martha Chalker

With the busiest of holidays coming up and the sometimes stress of the hustle and bustle, I am sharing this column from earlier this year to help us remain committed to building our own personal foundations throughout the holidays.

Life coaching is about exploring the possibilities and living a great life. It’s about making life choices based on our values and priorities.

Many of us are eager to start creating the life of our dreams, but are overwhelmed by everyday activities (putting out fires), causing us to delay our progress in focusing on living the life we truly desire.

Just as it takes a strong foundation for any great building to withstand the elements and hardships of nature, it’s important for you to develop your own personal foundation to support whatever else you want in life in spite of the difficulties life may throw at you.

One of the most difficult things is spending the necessary time and effort on building a strong personal foundation. However, the more time and effort put into preparing your support structure and systems, the more spectacular your life will be.

Here are a few suggestions for creating a stronger personal foundation.

1. Take care of your body. That means get plenty of sleep, eat well and exercise. These sound boring, but when you are tired, it is impossible to give your best to your work or other people in your life. You probably miss opportunities and make poor decisions. When you nurture your body with healthy foods, drink plenty of water and exercise (even just a little), it increases your energy level and promotes an overall feeling of well being.

2. Set aside some time for peace and quiet. Take a few minutes to keep a journal, meditate or pray. Develop the style that works for you and make it a routine. You will find this one activity will help create more reserve time in the rest of your day. By spending this time in silence, the space is there for what you need to show up. You may have new ideas, just relax or remember what’s really important. You may simply slow down and plan your day with total awareness.

3. Read and learn. Your options now are unlimited. You can read magazines, history books, science manuals, articles relating to your job(s), and novels from a book, on your phone or iPad ,iPod., You tube, Google,(well you get the message) from where ever you are. Reading stimulates the mind, broadens your perspective and makes you more interesting to talk with. Keep informed by following current events, politics or the latest films. I once read that all leaders are readers. I find that believable. Reading keeps you learning and provides you the strength and confidence that empowers you to live a more rewarding life.

4. This is a big one! Eliminate tolerations. There is no excuse for putting up with anything that drains you of positive energy. If it bothers you, it’s important to take care of it. If your desk is cluttered or your house is a mess (and it bothers you), take care of it. If you hate paperwork and it builds up, create a structure to handle it once and for all. If your finances allow, get a housekeeper, a bookkeeper or an assistant to help. Virtual assistants are quite common in the coaching community. Putting up with people who drain you is also a toleration. I know this is strong. It’s sad when relationships end, but it’s less emotionally and physically expensive than having to put up with strained or damaged relationships that drain you every day. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people and end those relationships that are never going to improve and enhance your happiness and quality of life.

5. Find a Life coach to help you reach your goals faster. We are trained, objective, encouraging and mean to help you reach for the stars. No excuses, we hold you accountable.

Martha Chalker is a life and business coach with more than twenty years experience. She can be reached at 706-564- 4458.

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